Is it ok for WOMAN to be Dominate?

I had a rather interesting weekend!

My husband and I got into a rather interesting conversation. It might not be that interesting to me because it got quite nasty meaning he was rude about it. but to other s it might get you thinking about it. and you can ask yourself this question as well.

(D is my husband)

On Sat. nite "D" said that he would go to church with me on sunday.

Sunday came along and he looked at me and said "I don't think I can sit there" now take it from me he says this a lot to me (every sunday).I didn't say much except ok whatever and then I left for church myself.

Ok I got home and I went to change out of my Sunday sweater into a sweatshirt as I sat on the bed D touched my back and I looked over at him and I didn't have smile yet, but I thought to myself just leave it alone Laur - so I did nd I had a pleasant smile.

Well I decided what the heck he was going to get out of bed if I had to sit up on him and tickle him or kiss him or whatever. So I did and I straddled him and he thought oh boy now this is getting good so we kissed abit and he was passionate about it. Then I sat straight up and he tickled me abit and then we had small talk and then he said "is this what you learned in Church Laur" he said it as a joke and laughed and I laughed too. I said "yeah right ok and said No" and laughed Then he persisted to touch me in places I wasn't ready to be touched because I wanted to seduce him 1st so I said nicely "no you can't touch me there yet, you have to wait" he laughed abit. Then I told him" let me make you feel good first" He then tried to touch my breasts and I said "no not yet and let me do what I was planning to do" He got upset and pushed me off and turned away from me. I thought ok what the world is going on here. So I tried to touch him and he shoved my hand away. I tried to talk to him about it and he told me that "A woman has no right be dominate" so I tried to find out why and I explained that all I was trying to do was make him feel good for once and I tried to explain to him that I was trying to seduce him and he ignored me and wouldn't look at me.

So this brought up another conversation (with me only talking now). There has been many times that I have tried to seduce him and everytime I have tried he brushes me off or pushes me away. I asked him what is up with that? He didn't say anything to me and just let me cry. Then I said that I would like to someday be the seducer but if he wouldn't let me then I need to be satisfied too with my wants and needs also. He still didn't say a word. then I asked him if he liked what I was saying - he still didn't say a word. Then I said "well I guess if you keep pushing me way or brushing me off I will just have to figure something else out for myself." Then he said "well there you go." meaning what I don't know?? Then I asked "can a woman be at all in your eyes be a dominate figure and try to seduce you at all instead of you doing all the seducing?"Then I said "I remember you telling me your way back experiences with a few woman you let them sedue you out in a field somewhere and you also told me that while you were in the army you had a few hookers her and there and you let them seduce you as you told me - so why amd I any different?" He then said "well are you asking for permission to go out behind my back Laur?" I said "no I am not asking for permission D but you need to satisfy my needs to and how many times have I tried to seduce you and you would let me? I am tired of it and of you being so selfish and it seems like you are into this just for your pleasure and the hell with mine." He then said "well I guess you want to seduce me into some kinky shit eh." I told him "no I never said that ." I know he is not that kind of guy in the first place. (In my thoughts but not in the open I have thought boy it would be nice to ram something up his arse without lubrication of any kind to let him see how it feels - LOL - but I never told him that - maybe I should?)

I asked him what happened here we were laughing, kissing, cuddling,hugging and etc just few minutes ago but when I was trying to seduce you and being a little dominate some - now this is what I deserve from you? I don't think I deserve to be treated like this from you or anyone. and then he got up and didn't say a thing and walked off from me.

All day there was silence neither of us said a thing to each other all day - he did ask me later to go to the store with him but I never said a word. we got home and about 5:33pm D went to bed and sleep for awhile came back out and leaned over to kiss me and said I love you - I didn't respond and I am not going to. I am tired of him being so selfish.

So does a woman have a right to seduce a man at all? Does a woman have the right to be a dominate figure?

D does like pain - one thing that I think is so weird is that he loves it after sex when he hands me the tweezers and he wants me to pull out the hairs off his back - he says it relaxes him. My Gosh I think that is WEIRD! It is a freaky fetish??? I have never had a guy that loves that as much as he does. But you know what I do it just to please him.

It seems to me that I do a lot of things to please him and he just doesn't want to please me.

Any comments on this would be helpful. Is this normal for a guy to think sex is just for all him?